Quick Tips: Saying No 3/4 - When you are frightened by their power When someone has power in a position of authority that could truly affect your livelihood, it’s hard to stand up for yourself. Perhaps try these phrases when they lean in. “I am actually frightened to say no to you, but I have to, and am asking you to support me on this in order for me to do my job effectively." “You are so good at using your confidence to ask for what you want. I’m not as g

Saying no when you truly feel bad can be difficult. Here are a few options.

Saying no to someone who is commandingly asking you to do something unreasonable can be challenging. The key is to not engage them - keep it short, speak very little, and watch them go into negotiation mode possibly. Just repeat yourself - three times if you have to. They’ll get the message you’re not going to engage.

September Challenge

Quick Tips: “Let’s start with the facts.” When beginning a challenging conversation, you could list several facts that you are 90%...

Quick Tips: “My perception is…” Starting with “My perception is…” can feel less of an attack, and more of a sharing. Try ending with...

Quick Tips: Timing is Everything Consider the emotional state of the person you want to have a challenging conversation with. When are...

Quick Tips: Ask Permission

Your challenge this month is to have the hard conversation.

Whether some triggers you from past experiences of others telling you horrible things, or you are your worst offender, you can take baby...

Got a case of being "Stuck in the It-Sucks?" That’s reinforcing a conclusion that survival brains love to build on. Try this self-talk...

Negative Self-Talk Tip: Imposter Syndrome Slippery Slope It’s a slippery slope from feeling like an imposter to becoming one. Try being...

Remember, it’s a slippery slope from the survival motivational cue to ensure that we are enough to stay in the tribe - to the victim that...

Favorite Food: So many favourites! I love Latin American, Middle Eastern and Asian cuisine. My mum makes an excellent ceviche, Ecuadorian...

Have you been given false promises? The economy or slow business putting locks on promotions or salary increases? If you’re clear that...

Nice guys finished last, right? Wrong. Nice guys who don’t over-commit to being nice finish first. How do you not over-commit if you...

Yes, you are exhausted. That’s how you feel. What thought can you add to it that feels right? Example: I know, no pain no gain...

Favorite Food: All things Japanese, sushi, sashimi, rolls or ramens Some of My Favorite Kinds of Entertainment: Sport, and if I had to...

Unpacking Stressful Thoughts: Feeling Frustrated With Someone? Living in that frustration with someone else can be self-righteous or...

The challenge this month is about questioning your own thoughts. It is our thoughts and our internal stories that lead us to the emotions...